Sunday, June 21, 2009

Sanctification on the Bleachers

This weekend was Isaac's first All-Star baseball Tournament of the year. We're in for a long summer.

I'm not sure if there exists a place where parents get more passionate about their kids than on the bleachers. The woman sitting behind me during our last game was particularly spirited. Or just plain obnoxious. She made it a point to loudly announce every error to the whole crowd and yell and scream as to what the player should have done differently. And apparently the using of God's name in vain about a dozen different times was supposed to encourage our boys to make smarter plays. I was just a bit angry.

Then she crossed the line.

Isaac made a bad decision on a play from 3rd and this woman decided she needed to let him know she noticed (and anyone else within a mile or so radius). Have I told you about Mother Bear? Because Mother Bear was just about to make an appearance. This woman was within smacking distance, you know. And OH, how I wanted to. I felt myself begin to go into out-of-body-mother-bear-mode, when I looked down and felt my friend, who was quietly sitting down on the bench in front of me, gently stroking my ankle, as if to say, "I know, Kati. It's okay. Let it go. It's not worth it." And somehow, the peace of God shut my mouth, and prevented me from venting the way my flesh really wanted to. I can not even tell you how close I came to making a scene. We are talking about my boy here, after all.

We ended up losing the game, placing a trophy-less 4th in the tournament. My easy-going son went to bed this evening with smile on his face, not bothered at all by the outcome. I'm sure not all the boys on the team went to bed so peacefully, as some are being taught by their parents that winning a baseball game is right up there with life and death.

It is frustrating to be surrounded by this. Yet, how would the Christian be sanctified if we were surrounded by perfect people? God kept my mouth shut this time. And my hands firmly folded (clenched) in my lap.Perhaps next time it will even extend into my heart, where my thoughts toward such belligerence will be more Christ-honoring.

We have only just begun. Our next month is absolutely jam packed with more regular season games and at least three more weekend tournaments. Much more opportunity to practice self-control as I am surrounded by others who seem to have none.

Lord, help!

7 comments:

Margaret said...

For some odd reason, I'm just now seeing this blog. Anyway, as I was reading it, I began to feel my own blood starting to boil and I'm not even the mama. :) Praise Jesus that He was right there with you in the presence of your friend.

JanAl said...

When it comes to my kids, I have a very hard time holding back. I am just thankful that I do not have the emotions that comes with pregnancy ,
because.....
Priscilla's pregnancy + hormones + a rude/big-mouthed parent = a full-blown storm from my mouth.
I did not have self-control at all in that situation, I did put her in her place, but thinking about it now, what did I accomplish? She probably has not changed, and I can not remember what she looks like, but she probably remembers me, and avoids me. With time, I am learning that it is better, and wise to take my thoughts/actions to the character of Christ, and to bite the tongue. Praying that God will take the sin of anger from your heart, and fill your heart with love that will cause you to show compassion and kindness. It is not easy, but it is possible!

Anonymous said...

overly passionate parents tend to forget that every child/player is someone's beloved son. you had a wise friend with you - what a blessing! but how i DO understand your frustration and desire to defend him!

your post is a wonderful encouragement to other parents who face the same temptation to retaliate.

Charity said...

Praise God for providing a check in your friend, and preventing you from dishonoring HIS name in responding to this woman (who, I'm assuming, is NOT a believer)! I was putting myself in your place as I read your description of what happened, and thinking it certainly would have taken an act of God to keep me from saying anything unrighteous in that situation!! It is also refreshing to know there are parents out there who realize there is more to life than winning a game. :)

Kati said...

Thanks for your comments, girls. And btw, I did not intentionally mean to leave "my friend" anonymous. That was Becky Gipe, who is a very understanding, fellow baseball mama. :) I believe she could feel the fury radiating from my body and did what she could to discreetly calm me down. :)

Chris said...

Maybe she was just checking to see if you had shaved your legs?

Good lesson Kati. Thanks for sharing

Unknown said...

Thanks Kati!